by Diana Baker Brummer, CSW-RI
Good Mental Heath LLC
January is such a wonderful month. It’s full of the freshness of a New Year; the excitement of new goals to accomplish and the anticipation of experiences yet to be had. It’s a time to plan for what’s coming next and a time to reflect on what has already passed.
But as much as January is famously full of hope and promise, it can also be infamously full of disappointment and frustration. Especially when the opposite of accomplishing your goals is not accomplishing your goals and the opposite of anticipating new experiences is not having new experiences to anticipate.
Reflecting on last year’s goals and realizing you haven’t yet achieved them can be difficult. Even more difficult is setting the same goals year after year and never achieving the results you desire. What are your new goals for this New Year? And what goals have you rolled over from 2017?
Whether it’s to “lose ten pounds,” or “communicate better with my partner,” or “make more money,” or “spend more time with the kids,” we all have areas of our lives we’d like to improve. What are you planning to do differently in 2018 to move past the limitations that have been holding you back? What tools and skills do you need in order to create the life and relationships you desire?
The first step in any transformation process is to change the story we tell ourselves, about ourselves. We must change our thinking in order to change our lives. Until we can identify as someone who is capable of being physically fit, or a good communicator, or deserving of wealth, or a more attentive parent, we will continuously fail to be those things because we won’t behave in a manner that allows us to achieve those goals.
Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself. So, this year, let’s embrace our New Year’s resolutions with the intention of creating the lives, relationships, and experiences we have always hoped for. It’s never too late to become the person you were meant to be.
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